Balance is important. Come May 19th we will find out how well we can hold our balance through 12 miles of mud and 28 crazy obstacles. Yes, I am talking about the Tough Mudder Race. But there is something more important than trying to complete a few muddy obstacles: maintaining a balanced life. If we cannot maintain balance in our personal, financial & spiritual lives, we will fall. Some of the obstacles we will face in Tough Mudder will test our balance as well. Except that unlike the Tough Mudder contest, our “life falls” affect more than just us. They have a great impact upon those around us as well. When you get off balance & “fall” your spouse is affected. Our kids, friends, co-workers and community are all also affected negatively by our inability to balance life. They are relying on us to discipline ourselves to continually maintain a healthy balance in every area of our lives.
Team Uppercut is about knocking out life’s challenges. Life Balance is one of those life challenges that is tested every day with every decision we make. Here are four steps to help you achieve life balance:
- Review Your Current Reality. Be honest with yourself on where you stand in life. How would you grade yourself on these five roles in life?
- Husband: What sort of husband are you right now? Evaluate the good and the bad.
- Father: Review the past year. Are you the Dad you imagined you would be before you had kids?
- Employee/Employer: How would you grade yourself as an employee/employer? Yes, honesty is a must for this task.
- Friend: What is your definition of a friend? Friendship is an area where men seem to loose balance.
- Spiritual Being: Where are you at spiritually? Is your spirit as healthy as your body? Strong Body + Weak Spirit = Weak
- How healthy of a balance do you have at this moment? Becoming aware of your current position is very important to living a balanced life. Without understanding your strengths and weaknesses you will not be able to sustain a balanced life.
- Decide Your Future Reality. Who do you want to be in the future? What sort of husband, father, employee/employer, and friend would you like to be? List some characteristic for each of those roles that you want in your life. Remember your spirit. 1 Timothy 4:8 says, “Exercise daily in God—no spiritual flabbiness, please! Workouts in the gymnasium are useful, but a disciplined life in God is far more so, making you fit both today and forever.” I think that sums up the importance of having a strong spirit.
- Create “I Will…” Statements. God honors our choices in life. Creating “I will..” statements is a great way to leading yourself towards your future reality. “I will…” statements are statements of action that will bring about change in your life each week. Be specific in your statements. For example, If you feel you are not spending enough quality time with your family, then one of your “I will…” statements might look like this.
- I will spend 30 minutes with each of my kids each day
- I will play one game with the kids (their choice) each week.
- I will eat at least one meal or read a bedtime story to my kids each day
Yes, this takes time. It may even seem weak. But there is more to being a part of Team Uppercut than just flipping tires and climbing ropes. Being a man is about providing and caring for those who are most important to you. That means having a healthy life balance. If we conquer the Tough Mudder race but have an unhealthy and unbalanced life, then we fail.
Failure is not an option. Get balanced, stay balanced and throw life a knock out punch!